Denise Winston [below] has been called the Rolls Royce of matchmakers. Not a shabby moniker, right? Her boutique matchmaking business began over 25 years ago and boasts beautiful offices in Manhattan and Beverly Hills, as well as attracting “an elite circle of prominent Hamptons clients.”  The only matchmaker ever recommended by The Sunday New York Times Wedding Vows section [an entire page was devoted to one of Winston’s happily “matched” couples], Winston has appeared on countless TV and radio shows including Good Day New York, CNBC, and Bravo, distilling her wisdom on how to become a target for Cupid’s elusive arrow. KDHamptons readers consistently ask, “How do I meet a great guy or girl in the Hamptons?”  Well, the love doctor weighs in this New KDHamptons Lifestyle Diary, below:

“I am a matchmaker and a love coach who takes pride in doing my work. My role is to eliminate the risks and deceptions. All you need to meet the love of your life is to be willing and ready and I will help you get there,” Denise shares with KDHamptons readers. So whether you are looking for love — or in love and hoping to get hitched — Winston knows how to navigate your route to romance. With the cozy, romantic Hamptons winter season right around the corner, we asked Winston to share her love notes with KDHamptons readers so you won’t be sitting by the fire solo.

Denise shares, “Brilliant news. New stats just out have recorded more singles in this country than married couples. Now, let’s unearth them in this beautiful, serene, slice of heaven called the Hamptons. Are you congregating where men meet on Saturday and Sunday mornings?  Don’t have breakfast at home. Head over to one of the Golden Pear locations in Southampton, Bridgehampton, or Sag Harbor for breakfast and read the paper. Have you become a regular at several places where “Everyone Knows Your Name”? You do not need to wear a sandwich board and parade up and down the street to let people know you are single. Just place it in the conversation after the crowd has seen you looking great, casual but shiny and fit with a big smile more than one time. Men love women that smile. It’s a nurturing thing. Hard wired DNA.

Never go anywhere with the attitude of finding “the one”. We all have several soul mates in a world of 6 billion people. You need to stay in a environment rich with possibilities. Are you smiling? Head up. Men are drawn to confident women. Act as though. It will come with time. Be ready for interesting topical conversation. The “Housewives of….. does not count. In fact, it’s surefire signal to make men run. Read the paper, read it outside where you are visible. Go to a local art exhibit, see a controversial film, be able to speak in more than a mono-syllabic fashion. My men adore smart women. You need to  keep checking the paper and attend as many local events as possible.

Charity functions can be tricky. Call ahead speak to the host and inquire if it is mostly a coupled event. Don’t be afraid to attend an event alone. Present with an open energy during cocktail hour or at the silent auction table and before you know it you could be chatting with a new friend. Remember — everyone knows someone who is single. There does not have to be an exchange of names and numbers right away. Stay open minded.

KDHamptons asks: Why is a Hamptons guy a better catch than a Manhattan man?

Denise:  “Have you heard that stress kills? A Hamptons guy is not pounding the pavement on Wall Street every day. His career most likely does not entail working 70 plus hours a week. A Hamptons guy may even be coming home for lunch and a “matinee”. The Hamptons man is surrounded by untouched majestic nature, not cold hard cement which has been documented to touch and change our hearts, our moods, and longevity. A Hamptons man therefore has more time for you…

KDHamptons: Got a tip for keeping romance alive for married couples?

Denise: Okay here’s a few that will always work: You probably sent sexy texts before you were married, so why not now? Send alluring photos too [no nudity~ leave something to the imagination!]. Go out of your way to prepare [okay, maybe you pick it up at Citarella] his favorite meal. I have very often found a restaurant is more than happy to share that special recipe with you. MOST IMPORTANTLY everyone wants to feel acknowledged and appreciated in a marriage. Express this to your partner often.

KDHamptons: Lots of Hamptons couples become homebodies in the winter season. How do we keep the boredom at bay?

Denise: First you need to start with little, but significant, building blocks of intimacy. Private jokes, silly messages. Your song. Secret codes. Pet names. And on those cold snowy nights [of course you are not wearing those old-I-don’t-care-how-I-look sweats, right?] light a crackling fire, relive the memories of your wedding on the DVD, and create a fancy place setting for the take-out you picked up earlier. Sip champagne, eat dinner in front of the fire, and the romance will flow…

Old adage but oh so true- never go out of the house without feeling and looking good. You never know where you may unearth that gem: farmer’s markets, the grocery store, Tate’s bake shop, or at Tennis East!

KDH: What is the biggest mistake you see single girls always making?

Denise: They Lose Him At Hello! Trying to impress a potential date with your very busy and important schedule shows him you have no time for a relationship. A new love interest wants to know you are available — and not three weeks later!

Ready to find your true love? Email Denise at iwlmatchu@hotmail.com, or call her at 212.935.9350; or go to www.denisewinstonmatchmaker.com